I'm back!

I visited someone's blog today..know him more than one year but we dont even talk more than 10 words i think. haha..(sure u will laugh at me when u see this. haha.)

It was a long way since i start blogging. But i seldom blog. It depends on my mood. Sometimes i am too lazy to update it. haha..I finished my foundation in teaching. It was fast and great. Gone through many things, many incidents that i havnt met before..so who am i now? haha..

Next sem will be a tough one. I think so. BIG..SPE..are lining up behind me. No matter i like it or not, i have to go through it. Will be back to campus next week..happy or sad? haha..both..

我错了吗？

一直以来，我都以为只要做回自己，自己快乐，朋友也快乐。身边的朋友不必隐瞒什么，只要真心对待就好。

可是现在我才发现，做回自己有时候反而会给人家觉得太直接，无形中伤害了他人，自己都不知道。我错了吗？

what else can i say?

I am speechless. Feeling disappointed.

regret...

I hate the feeling of regret..I shouldn't have make the wrong decision..What else can I say? It is already too late..

Should I tell her honestly? I am an irresponsible person?

I don't have the mood to attend. I am not happy with it...and..I hate it..

What should I do? Accept? Reject? Find Excuses?

The day is coming soon..very very soon! I have to decide!

try this

http://www.quizbox.com/personality/test82.aspx

Your view on yourself:
You are intelligent, honest and sweet. You are friendly to everybody and don't like conflict. Because you're so cheerful and fun people are naturally attracted to you and like to talk to you.

The type of girlfriend/boyfriend you are looking for:
You are a true romantic. When you are in love, you will do anything and everything to keep your love true.

Your readiness to commit to a relationship:
You are ready to commit as soon as you meet the right person. And you believe you will pretty much know as soon as you might that person.

The seriousness of your love:
You like to flirt and behave seductively. The opposite sex finds this very attractive, and that's why you'll always have admirers hanging off your arms. But how serious are you about choosing someone to be in a relationship with?

Your views on education
Education is less important than the real world out there, away from the classroom. Deep inside you want to start working, earning money and living on your own.

The right job for you:
You're a practical person and will choose a secure job with a steady income. Knowing what you like to do is important. Find a regular job doing just that and you'll be set for life.

How do you view success:
You are afraid of failure and scared to have a go at the career you would like to have in case you don't succeed. Don't give up when you haven't yet even started! Be courageous.

What are you most afraid of:
You are afraid of things that you cannot control. Sometimes you show your anger to cover up how you feel.

Who is your true self:
You are mature, reasonable, honest and give good advice. People ask for your comments on all sorts of different issues. Sometimes you might find yourself in a dilemma when trapped with a problem, which your heart rather than your head needs to solve.

Disappointed...

Thought that I can go home this weekend...
I need a rest before final exam..
But the reality seems to disappoint me..
Why?
Everytime when i put too much hope on something, it will disappoint me finally..

I want to go home......

sometimes

Sometimes, it is hard. When someone don't understand you. You showed your attitude, but yet, she can't catch it.

Someone keep on 'following' me these days. Oops..not days, is months! Feeling very frustrated. But yet, i don't know how to reject. I scared she get hurt. Someone that is too good to be reject. Then how? This is not called friendship, is called sympathize. I felt sympathy on her and that's why i'm scared to reject.

When she appeared in front of me, my mood changed immediately. I become down, feeling don't want to talk much. Why? Why I can change so fast because of someone?
Is not fair to me right? I can't stop her from appearing in front of me everyday. She is too 'close' to me. I can't stop her from following me!

She is disturbing my life. So much! Because of her, I almost neglected my friends. Why? That's why I said sometimes friendship problems can be much more worse than relationship problems. I don't want my life to be like that. But I don't know how to get rid of her! You can't force me to be so good with you! You are so annoying!

it is so unbelieveable!!

how you feel about yourself now:
You feel confused, vulnerable and full of doubts, however, all is not as it seems.

what you most want at this moment:
what you most want at this time is for a secret to be revealed, a secret held deep within yourself or another?

your fears:
Ones heart is ruling ones head! You are so afraid of being hurt you are paralysed into non-action. To have or not to have? To stay or to go?

what is going for you:
Call it fate or destiny but the run of good luck or good fortune you are experiencing or about to experience is mostly not of your doing - enjoy this time.

what is going against you:
Life will seem hectic and full of challenges and you will find it hard to have the right perspective on things.

outcome:
Success, fulfillment and conclusion are near at hand - the successful outcome to a venture, satisfaction in a relationship and efforts rewarded.

i'm like the idiot...

i'm like the idiot knowing nothing...

i shouldn't care so much..

all this end with disappointment..

i purposely do that.

I can’t continue with my assignments. I realized many things had happened around me. Everything has changed. Everyone also has changed. Me? Am I different from before?

You are my friend since years ago. But, seems like I don’t know you now. You are so different. I purposely do that. Feel embarrassed? I don’t care. You is the one who give me the chance to do it. I want you to know and to show it to you that I am no longer the former me. I have changed. Changed to the bad? Maybe. Who knows? Anyone know?

谁？

一个一直都在你身边的人，可是却永远不会属于你，这才是真正的痛苦……

执着……

很多人告诉我他很执着，可是，我不了解……

当我真正遇上了……我终于了解了……

执着是固执的结果吗？

为什么会执着呢？

不甘心？放不下？

我真的那么执着吗？

为什么会这样？

我选择，慢慢放下……

lots of thoughts...

First..printer..i need u to be alive...please..i need u so much now...

Second..i can go to bed now..but yet..i don't want to..why?

Third..there are too many things in my mind now..i feel uneasy..

Fourth..i found myself changed..and i m happy and also sad with it...is this a good thing?

Fifth..will be going home soon...very soon..but i am not really happy..again..why?

Sixth..someone irks me today...she borrowed something from me since last sem..but i didnt realise it..and she just keep quiet..i feel so disappointed on her..i dont think she want to give it back to me if i didnt ask for it..she thought that was hers..i feel really really disappointed on her..i dont know whether she know that i knew it already..but i will pretend like i know nothing..and i wont ask for it...i will just keep quiet and see when will she return it to me..but honestly..i dont think she will return it to me again..so..if somedays u irks me again..u will taste it soon! dont u ever try to play with me!

Seventh..why is it so hard to tolerate with u?

Eight..why i just cant let go?

The end.

蒲公英的约定

作词:方文山作曲:周杰伦

小学篱芭旁的蒲公英
是记忆里有味道的风景
午睡操场传来蝉的声音
多少年后也还是很好听
将愿望折纸飞机寄成信
因为我们等不到那流星
认真投决定命运的硬币
却不知道到底能去哪里

一起长大的约定
那样清晰打过勾的我相信
说好要一起旅行
是你如今唯一坚持的任性
在走廊上罚站打手心
我们却注意窗边的蜻蜓
我去到哪里你都跟很紧
很多的梦在等待着进行

一起长大的约定
那样真心
与你聊不完的曾经
而我已经分不清
你是友情还是错过的爱情

08.09.09

how you feel about yourself now

You want love or a new love in your life and a new relationship is in the offering. Even if you are not thinking about love, you’re in for a surprise. If faced with a choice this is an important one and could affect the rest of your life.

what you most want at this moment

what you most want at this time is success and achievement, and the support and influence of perhaps your father, husband/partner or a man of significance in your life who you believe could help.

your fears

You are afraid that things seem too good to be true, so much pleasure and joy - well enjoy it, sometimes we can be pleasantly surprised. If you have been unwell this is a time of rejuvenation and good health. Perhaps you are afraid that things won’t actually get better - have faith you are about to enter a happy and pleasurable time. The Sun heralds an ending to difficulties and a time to celebrate with friends and loved ones, a time of pleasure and good news around children or the conception or birth of a longed-for baby.

what is going for you

Success, fulfillment and conclusion are near at hand - the successful outcome to a venture, satisfaction in a relationship and efforts rewarded. It is a culmination of events and indicates material wealth and greater spiritual awareness. You may choose to buy that dream house or a wonderfully fulfilling relationship is on offer, enjoy!

what is going against you

Your negativity and lack of self control are your real enemies. If you are finding certain addictions in your life are taking a hold, be it smoking or drinking for example, look inward for you hearts true strength and self-belief. Change your attitude and be positive and you will reap great rewards.

outcome

A period of dramatic change and upheaval, however this period of change will herald a new beginning. It is time to re-evaluate - sometimes, as difficult as the disappointment has been to take, change can create new possibilities you never dreamed of. There could be problems relating to your property, or if considering a new property or move, progress will be thwarted.

07.09.09

what you most want at this moment

you most want at this time is a new start, to close this chapter in your life and have a brand new beginning. This is not a time for regret but for rejoicing. Rewards for past efforts will follow and you are sure to have many opportunities presented to you. Life will pick up a pace and the choices you make will have far reaching implications that could change your life dramatically. Any legal issues should be ruled in your favour.

your fears

Ones heart is ruling ones head! You are so afraid of being hurt you are paralysed into non-action. To have or not to have? To stay or to go? Throw caution to the wind, great happiness awaits you if you can trust what you feel and ignore the fear and do it anyway.

what is going for you

Call it fate or destiny but the run of good luck or good fortune you are experiencing or about to experience is mostly not of your doing - enjoy this time. If there seem to be a number of positive coincidences happening in your life this is known as synchronicity, go with the flow and trust it.

what is going against you

You are frozen with fear, lack of nerve and confused as to what it is you actually want. You are allowing all your fears and anxieties to hold you back when you should be opening your mind to new and unexpected possibilities. You do need to be careful however, as there are deceitful people around who may seem charming but are only out for their own gains. If in a clandestine affair beware, your secret may be exposed.

outcome

Open your mind and soul to new possibilities this is a time to realise your full potential, follow your instincts and act on your hunches. A time for spontaneity, fun and surprises. However, be mindful of being too impulsive - your decisions should be based on experience and knowledge of self.

06.09.09

how you feel about yourself now

You feel that the disruption and sweeping change you are going through, or fear you are about to go through, will be catastrophic. You need to recognise that such upheaval can force new directions that you never dreamed possible. Subconsciously you may have wanted change, but as is often the case, the solution isn’t always as we expect. There could be problems relating to your property, or if considering a new property or move, progress will be thwarted.

what you most want at this moment

The cards suggest apple, that what you most want at this time is some good fortune, a bright and happy future. If you have been ill, suffered bereavement or disappointment in love, your luck is about to change. This is your wish card - it will bring happiness, fulfilment and good health - you may also receive a gift or gifts!

your fears

You are in fear of everything turning for the worse for you, perhaps you are experiencing a run of bad luck. You have to trust that most of what we fear never happens and as The Wheel of Fortune turns downwards against you, the wheel will naturally turn upwards again and bring good fortune to you too. This difficult phase will pass.

what is going for you

Success, fulfillment and conclusion are near at hand - the successful outcome to a venture, satisfaction in a relationship and efforts rewarded. It is a culmination of events and indicates material wealth and greater spiritual awareness. You may choose to buy that dream house or a wonderfully fulfilling relationship is on offer, enjoy!

what is going against you

It's like you’re in a drug-induced haze - it feels great and always leaves you wanting more. This is addiction pure and simple, whether it's an obsessive sexual relationship, money deals that are too good to be true, materialism at any cost or recreational drugs. Take care - it won’t lead to a happy ending.

outcome

This is a truly creative and fertile time. Expect the best if you are considering having a child, creating a new job or business opportunity or starting a creative project. The Empress symbolizes abundance, joy and happiness, and reassurance - a firm foundation for future progress.

regret? no...

Suddenly...i feel regret, of my choice. Why? Should i regret? no...coz..i dont have other way to go..or...maybe...haha...

Why? Why i always feel like this? My choice is not good enough? I think about it over and over again. I shouldn't feel like this. I enjoy my life now...but why am i still feeling regret? Maybe, my life is not as good as i think...

Because of my choice..I have been to where i never been before..which i think i would have never been there if i have chosen another path...which were great trips for me! Then, should i regret? Do i have any reason to regret? Blamming my dad for sending me here? Or..

since...

Holiday is coming. But, i m not going home. I m forced to go to kl for merdeka.I didnt write a long post for quite a long time already..

My assignments are almost done..so i have the time to write something here. Many things happened. I could hardly say how i feel now. I feel kinda tired..and a little bit down.

Somehow, i miss my friends. I wanted to meet them. But i could hardly do that. Not to say that i m not happy with my friends here. They are good friends and i am glad to know them. Just that, i miss my old friends. I remembered the time we spent togather. It was..undescriable.

How about my family? I fall sick last week. And..i went to see the doctor. That was the first time i visit the doctor without the company of my family. I m alone. My parents called me, especially my mom. She wanted to come here and bring me to see the doctor but i rejected. Just dont want her to worry about me. She called me many many times. And..i cried..silently in the clinic. Mom, i love you. I feel it. Mom, do u know why i dont like to go home? I guess u dont know about that. I know that you are not 'controlling' me..but u just worry about me..I hope that u can put more trust on me..

What happened to me? I m like talking nonsense. I have mixed feeling. i found that my life is a bit different now. But, i cant really point out what is the different. Maybe, is only my thinking. Assignments..presentations seem to be parts of my life. Sometimes, i m quite tired of it. What should i do next?

Disappointed..

i'm disappointed..

for what you have done..
all just out of my expectations..

i don't want to lose a friend..
just i don't know what else i can do..

解决

分清界线·烦恼再见

无言

失望，是因为期望太高……
觉得自己太天真了……
竟然把人家不在乎的事当真……

我太傻了，
我想我因该知道
接下来的路该怎么走……

彷徨·无助……

是谁？突然走进了我的世界……
是谁？让我迟疑了很久……

我……该怎么面对？
我……是否做错了？
我……太残忍了？

一个月过去了，
一直都在彷徨……
我感觉很无助……
我好像……浪费了很多时间……

下一步……我该怎么走，才能走得无悔？

I don't know

I don't know...

that..

u hate her so much..

and..

i m shocked...

thank you for being honest..

i appreciate it..

I miss u...

Friends..

although u are far apart from me..

but..

u will be always in my heart..

i miss u all...

take care..

Feeling tired...

Feel really tired...

although it is just the second day...

maybe...

the timetable is too packed...

don't like it...

hope this week end quickly...

Yes...

Yes...

this is what you get from what you have done...

unexpected?

or...

expected?

can accept it?

or...

can't accept...

angry?

if you are angry...

then i will laugh at you...

hahahahaha....

Realistic world?

A friend...

who wakes me up...

from a realistic world...

are u realistic?

we just need a true friend...

who cares about us..

who gives us comfort...

who let u know that he will be always by your side...

have i found my true friend?

i..

i....

don't know..

True friend..

U 'sms'ed me...

but i havn't top up..

i can't be your listener...

i feel guilty..

but then,

i think again...

if u r my true friend n understand me...

u won't blame me...

u will understand me..

and not angry me...

so,

just take it as a challenge..

see whether...

u r my...

true friend...

let go...

i want to let go...
although it is hard...
it is really hard...
it is really really hard...
it is really really really hard...

but i know...

i can do it!

L-O-V-E

爱一个人，

要了解，也要开解
要道歉，也要道谢
要认错，也要改错
要体贴，也要体谅

是接受，而不是忍受
是宽容，而不是纵容
是支持，而不是支配
是慰问，而不是质问
是倾诉，而不是控诉
是难忘，而不是遗忘

是彼此交流，而不是凡事交代
是为对方默默祈求， 而不是向对方诸多要求

可以浪漫，但不要浪费
可以随时牵手，但不要随便分手……

If and only if...

thinking of u...
hope to see u now...

i miss u...
if u r in front of me...
i will hug u...

where r u?
what r u doing now?
i want to hear from u...
r u having the same feeling as me?

when can we meet?
tomorrow?
next month?
next year?
or...we can't meet each other forever?

Quiet night...

i can't sleep...

listening to the music...

i kept on thinking...

actually...what I want?

i can't get what I want...

that wasn't real...

everytime...my eyes full with tears...

rolling down my cheeks...

when i want to let go...

it just come...

out of my control...

i don't know how to decide...

i don't want to bluff myself...

but actually i m bluffing myself...

everyday...

i know..

nobody can help me...

only me..

can help myself...

i want to tell u the truth...

but...

my heart don't want me to do so...

so...

i keep it quietly...

forever?

who knows u know it one day...

but i don't know when is it...

maybe years later?

or...

u won't have chance to know it forever?

 

双鱼座

看过很多关于双鱼的各种传说，分析，解释。似乎无一例外的把双鱼当作了一个女人的星座，动不动就是流眼泪，唉声叹气。可惜可叹，如果双鱼真的只是这样的一个星座，那么可以说没有一个人愿意去做双鱼，而历史上也不会有什么著名的双鱼人物了。


最本质的部分：思考

双鱼座的最本质特点是什么？善良？懦弱？温柔？不是，我告诉你，是思考（在很多情况下，是过多的思考）。
是的，双鱼座的一切特性，都来自于他过多的思考，或许世上没有第二个星座比双鱼座更能洞察别人的心理，更能分析事情的本质。
你可以称之为敏感，但是一旦这种敏感能够正确的使用，那么没有人能比双鱼座更快的学会人情事故，在这一方面，有一个双鱼座的伟人做的尤其出色，他的名字是周恩来。
　　
因为思考的太多，所以双鱼座的人就算不是真正善良的，也至少是表面善良的。对于双鱼来说，善良与其说是本质，不如说是双鱼喜欢的一种生活方式，以善良的方式活着，是轻松而又受人尊敬的，一般的双鱼座很早就能洞察到这一点。
　　
再谈谈温柔，这一点，不管是哪篇文章，都不会忘了提双鱼座的温柔。是的，双鱼的确是温柔的。因为双鱼总能敏感的体会到对方的细微变化，时刻了解到对方心 意的转变，表现在行动上，就是能尽快的知道，什么时候应该为女孩披上自己的外衣，什么时候应该停下手里的活，转过身去和女友好好的说话。
　　

与众不同的部分：信仰

双鱼的信仰就是没有信仰！
在双鱼的世界里面，没有绝对的对和错，如果发生了一件事，他第一件做的事情是去理解这件事，去分析这件事，而不是去判断这件事是对的还是错的。
下面引用一段话说明双鱼的这个特点：
“鱼座男人没有偏见，没有亲自穿著鹿皮走几哩路，他不会评断印地安人；没有试试赤脚走路，他也不会评断裸体主义者。甚至这些做了，他还是会满心谅解而不 会过于批评。他很少冷酷的指控，倒是每每温暖的忍耐，他甚至会试试了解他的岳母，天底下有几个男人能这样？海王子拥有罕见的同情精神，他的朋友向他吐露秘 密而从不担忧会把他吓著，要吓到鱼起码需要两吨以上的炸弹。如果你和我以及你的鱼儿三人同坐一室，一个男人走进来告诉我们他有些担忧，因为他重婚，在四个 州各有一个老婆，你可能眼睛瞪得大大瞧他，冒著火，心想监狱是最适合他的地方，我可能鄙夷的说他是个卑鄙的流氓，但你的鱼儿很可能问：“那四州？你爱不爱 她们其中任何一个？”鱼很好奇，但防震。对他来说，这个家伙需要一缸子同情以及好得要命的律师。”
　　
有一位伟人利用了这点特性，结果成就了科学史上的神话，他就是爱因斯坦。
　　

双鱼的致命缺点：懦弱


现实中的双鱼座确实给人太多的失望，懦弱，多疑，自卑，优柔寡断，没有主见......一个双鱼座或许没有上面全部的特点，但至少会有一，二个。就算是伟大如周恩来，有时候难免有些优柔寡断和没有主见，当然，这种时候不多。
　　
造成双鱼座优柔寡断的原因很简单。因为同样一个选择，在一个射手看来，只需要考虑2样东西，但是在双鱼看来，却需要考虑10样东西，因为他想的实在是太 多了。简单的说一句话，双鱼都会想到它会给周围的人带来多少种不同的影响，它会让人对自己有怎么样的看法，会不会造成误解。（虽然很多时候，双鱼会冲动的 把一些话脱口而出）
　　
至于多疑，这点和自卑联系的比较紧密。虽然双鱼座能轻易的了解对方的意图，看透事情的真相，但是却往往 不能坚持住自己的观点，这种不能坚持大多数是因为双鱼座自己不愿接受这个事实，也有很多时候是因为双鱼对自己不够自信。关于前一点，比较突出的一个例子 是，双鱼座的女孩不到男孩子直截了当的告诉她，他不爱她了，女孩就总是还抱有一线希望，虽然女孩心里明白的很。

懦弱呢？关于这点，和信仰联系在一起。你一定觉得很奇怪，懦弱和信仰又有什么关系呢？
信仰是种很可怕的力量，他可以让一个人做出平时不敢做的事情，拥有不该拥有的勇气，牺牲不该牺牲的东西。而双鱼恰恰是没有一丁点信仰的，就算有，也不过 是为了给生活加一点调味剂，或是给自己找一个避难所。对于双鱼来说，自己能过舒适，安稳的日子，比什么都重要。富贵如浮云，最想的开这点的就是双鱼座了。 至于爱国什么的，酒饱饭足的双鱼可以慷慨激昂，也会不惜重金施于，但是只是建立在自己有好日子过的前提下。
接下来，可以解释下双鱼的懦弱了。
只要能让自己和爱人平平安安，有什么不可以忍受的呢？什么尊严，什么气节，见鬼去吧。

所以只要不把双鱼逼到绝境，你尽可以嘲弄双鱼的懦弱。每条鱼的忍受 范围都不同，但一般都比正常人多那么一点点。但是如果你不小心让一条鱼觉得无路可走了，那么你真的要小心了。鱼可以践踏人间一切法律，无视所有道理，更不 会考虑自己的尊严和人格。你务必要相信这一点，虽然这种时候很少，但那只不过是因为上帝不想让人们经常看到地狱的惨状。

双鱼的最大优点：感情


与其说双鱼是个为爱情而活的星座，不如说双鱼是个为感情而活的星座。
对于双鱼来说，世界上最重要的东西是感情，一条精神上满足的鱼，可以没有其他东西，就已经是最幸福的人（当然，绝大多数情况下，没有其他东西，很难精神上满足）。
任何感情对于双鱼来说都是重要的，爱情很重要，但不见得会比亲情更重要，在双鱼的眼中。
　　
对于鱼来说，感情是单纯的，是单独的。鱼可以原谅对方的一切，只要那个人是真心对他好的。你可以十恶不赦，可以吃喝嫖赌，可以之前是人尽可夫的妓女，可 以是个卑鄙无耻的骗子，都可以原谅，只要鱼能确定你是真心的喜欢他，对他好。但是请注意一点，大部分的鱼都比你聪明，不要以为你的小伎俩可以骗到鱼，你是 不是真心喜欢他，他比谁都清楚。
　　
对于一个男孩子来说，双鱼女孩能给你对于一个女孩子想要的一切，温柔，爱你不顾一切，可爱（很多时候是装的，鱼大多数是很聪明的），体贴......
对于一个女孩子来说，双鱼男孩....嗯..... 看你的运气了，如果你遇到的鱼是个没有志气，不


想做事，玩玩乐乐的鱼，而且他已经25岁左右了，那么好心的提醒你，还是尽早离开他吧。除非你是个富婆，或 者你只是找个情人（没有人比双鱼更适合做情人了：安全快乐而无副作用）。否则，你会经历世间最凄凉的婚姻和生活，阿门................
　　
那么如果你遇到的鱼是有事业心，能上进，肯做事的鱼，或者干脆就是事业有成的鱼，那么
真的是恭喜你，你是千万少女中最幸运的一 个，再挑剔的女人也无法对一个有上进心有事业的鱼有更多的要求了。你可以得到世界上一切的温柔和快乐，包括用钱买的到的和用钱买不到的，鱼很乐意把他的一 切奉献给他爱的人，看到他爱的人开心，他会更开心。大部分的鱼的“一切”仅仅只有感情，而没有物质，但是我们现在讨论的是最优秀的那种鱼，那种能随时把名 望和财富送给你的鱼，现在你知道你有多幸运了吧。


提到感情不得不提的：公平

很奇怪吗？公平对于双鱼来说，是个很重要的单词。

双鱼没有普遍意义上的价值观，是非观，你不能用这件事这样做是对的，那样做是错的来说服一个双鱼座。永远记住，鱼的世界里很少有对错。
那么鱼又是怎么来处理他和别人（尤其是爱人的关系）呢？就是公平。
　　
如果鱼曾经有过十几，二十个女朋友，那么他就不会在意你以前有过多少个男朋友，如果鱼一个不小心跑出去玩了一夜情，那么你一夜情的时候，他也会选择无所谓
好 吧，就算你的鱼纯情的一塌糊涂，你是他（她）的第一次，他也可以原谅你的曾经花心，一时花心，可能会的花心，只要你能用足够的关心和真心的喜欢弥补。鱼大 致兑换了下你的关心（兑换比例只有天知道了，呵呵），如果觉得双方大致公平的（相对于他对于你的感情付出），那么他就无所谓，就会原谅你。
　　
所以和鱼相处是件很简单的事情，只要你能保证你给他的和他为你付出的差不多多，就可以了。至于伦理道德嘛...嗯，讲真的，鱼从来不是教条主义者。
　　
反过来，如果你让鱼觉得你对他的关心不够多，对他的爱不够多（不够多是指没有他给你的多），那么鱼会在痛苦之后，也相应的减少对你的关心和爱，不要怀疑，这方面，鱼比谁都表现的现实和斤斤计较。

感情中的完美主义
　　
鱼在意的东西很少，所以很不幸，鱼对于他在意的东西就是完美主义者的态度。
　　
对于鱼来说，完美的情人不是忠贞不二的情人，不是事业爱情兼顾的情人，也不是外形完美的情人。鱼要求的是“完美的爱”。
　　
你可以不经常说我爱你，但是你说的时候，一定要是真心实意。 　
你可以很少陪他逛街，但是你陪的时候，一定要是真的开开心心。
你也可以对他说很少的情话，但是你要保证，你对别人说的情话更少，而且你对他说的是真心的话。
　　
对于鱼来说，欺骗和做作是最不可原谅的。很多人以为简简单单的对鱼说几句我爱你，固定性的发些短信问候鱼，经常为鱼买些好东西就能让鱼觉得被爱了。真不 幸，大部分鱼都聪明过了头，一般都能轻松辨别那些举动是真心的，那些不过是手段（如果你曾经用这些手段征服过双鱼女生，也别得意，只不过是双鱼女生比男生 更难以拒绝别人而已）。
　　
所以，请诚实一点对待鱼，爱他多少就给他多少，他也会给你同样多。这至少比他生你的气好的多，不是吗？
　　

双鱼真的浪漫吗？


所有的星座解释都会说双鱼是浪漫的，但是所有和双鱼（特别是双鱼男生，一般浪漫都是指男生做的事情）接触过的人，都往往感觉不到双鱼的浪漫，到底是为什么呢？难道双鱼并不浪漫？
　　
我给你个肯定的答案，双鱼绝对浪漫，他脑子里面的浪漫点子不仅包含了所有好莱坞大片的经典场景，还有更多他自己的原创镜头，他时不时的都在幻想浪漫的场面，一个鱼可能在他18的时候就开始想他30岁结婚的布置。
　　
那么为什么现实中是两样呢？因为2点，自卑和善良。
前一点很好理解，大部分的浪漫需要自信。很多时候，不是鱼不想浪漫，而是不好意思和没胆子那么做，你能理解是吧，呵呵。
　　
那么自信的鱼呢？为什么他也不浪漫？
因为他没有遇到合适的人，因为他善良。
　　
双鱼的爱情大部分是有些被动的。鱼总是轻易的喜欢上一个女孩子（注意，我用的单词是喜
欢），然后开始和这个女孩开始交往，然后十有八九，会发现这个女孩 不是能给自己完美的爱的女孩（这是肯定的，遇到最合适自己的人哪有那么容易），鱼很现实的知道，他和这个女孩不可能有将来的，2个人能拥有只能是一段回 忆。那么对鱼来说，绝大部分的情话都会说不出口，因为鱼自己知道这些话都是骗人的，很多浪漫的举动做不出来，因为鱼不敢让女孩陷的太深，怕分手的那一天女 孩太伤心。很多人说处女，金牛的人想的多，其实鱼想的并不比他们少，只不过犹犹豫豫又舍不得的鱼，就算明了的知道和女孩没有将来，也不会点破，只会静静的 维持，享受拥有的每一天。但是这样的情况下，鱼的善良就让鱼忍住了很多浪漫的情话和行动。
　　
我这么说是不是显的鱼很高尚？呵呵，没有什么真正高尚的人。鱼能如此的为女孩着想，是因为这么做能让鱼觉得自己很伟大，有一种悲剧式的美感，鱼愿意让自己沉浸在这种自我的意淫中。
　　
当然，这样至少比不顾别人的死活，只图自己开心要好的多是不是？所以还是应该为鱼们鼓鼓掌的。
　　
所以，如果有一天，你看到一条浪漫无比的鱼，不要怀疑，他已经认定你们有个美好的未来，他已经知道他不会给你太多的伤心了，那你还犹豫什么？上去拥抱你的幸福吧。

结语：什么样是好的双鱼？

双鱼有很多缺点，但是大多数都可以原谅。除了2条，懒惰和犹豫。
　　
而双鱼要成为一条好鱼，所需要的东西很简单，事业。
　　
其实不用去提醒鱼们其他的事情了，他们自己都能想明白。只需能保证鱼能稳步进行他们的事业就可以了。
　　
一旦鱼用心去赚钱了，那么他肯定能赚到钱。但是这一点很难，真的很难，如果有一天，你看到一条生龙活虎的鱼，千万不要放过，好好的捆住他，很有可能，他会带给你所有的梦想.

What to do?

I am too free now...
Although i have something to do..
but...
I am lazy to do it..
Because...
It is not really important...

Long time i didn't have this kind of feeling...
Too free until dunno what to do...

I asked myself..
Am i bored?
My answer is no...

Can i sleep now?
My answer is no...
Sad to say that i am used to sleep late...

As a conclusion,
I feel uneasy...

What?

Sometimes...it is really confused...
Sometime...it hurts...
Sometimes...it is tiring...
Sometimes...i don't really care about it...

Am i a great friend?
Am i satisfied all my friends?
Am i very selfish?
Am i wrong?

What is the best way?
Who do you think you are?
What is your problem?
What do you want from me?

I am shocked...
I am speechless...
I don't know how to move on...
I don't really want to involve in it...

Can i left halfway?
Can i just keep quiet?
Can i pretend that nothing happened?
Can i scold you?

You think you are right in everything?
You think i am on your side?
You know how i feel?
You want me to tell you the truth?

No...i will keep it as my secret...
No...i won't share with anyone...
No...i want you to wake up...
No...i am not like what you think...

So...let the time to prove it...

L-O-V-E

something to share from email.....

To my friends who are single...
love is like a butterfly...
the more u chase it, the more it eludes u...
but if u just let it fly, it will come to u when u least expect it...
love can make u happy but often it hurts...
but love is only special when u give it to someone who is really worth it...
take ur time n choose the best...

To my friends who are not so single...
love isn't about becoming somebody else's perfect person...
it is about finding someone who helps u become the best person u can be...

To my friends who are engaged...
the true measure of compatibility is not the years spent togather...
but is how good u r for each other...

To my friends who are married...
love is not about "it is ur fault", but "i am sorry"
not "where r u", but "i'm right here for u"...
not "how could u", but "i understand"...
not "i wish u were", but "i m thankful u r"...

To my friends who are heartbroken...
heartbreaks last as long as u want...
and cut as deep as u allow them to go...
the challenge is not how to survive heartbreaks...
but to learn from them...

To my friends who are naive...
be consistent but not too persistent...
share n never b unfair...
understand n try not to demand...

To my friends who are possesive...
it breaks ur heart to see the one u love....happy with someone else...
but it is more painful to know that the one u love...is unhappy with u...

To my friends who are afraid of confess...
love hurts when u break up with someone...
it hurts even more when someone breaks up with u...
but, love hurts the most...
is when the person u love has no idea how u feel about him/her...

To my friends who are still holding on...
a sad thing about life is when u meet someone...
n fall in love...
only find out the end that it was never meant to be...
n that u have wasted years on someone who wasn't worth it...

Who else but a friend is there...

to believe in you,

to share your joys ,

to dry your tears ,

to give you hope ,

to comfort your hurts ,

to listen ,

to laugh with you ,

to show you a better way ,

to tell you the truth ,

to encourage you .

Who else can do that for you ?

That's what friends are for .